Marriage Isn't for you!

Breakfast With Bubbie

Written by Robin "Bubbie" Montgomery

Riverside County News Source

Over the past ten years of my life, whenever I have discussed Trevor's accident, people have said to me "Trevor is so lucky you didn't leave him" It never failed to stun me that people could possibly think I would EVER leave Trevor, let  alone during the worst possible time of his life. They would then proceed to tell me about different friends that left their spouse, or their spouse left them after suffering sever injuries. I was absolutely dumbfounded. I still can not wrap my mind around leaving your spouse in their time of need. No matter how terrible it is.

My reply was always the same. Never in a million years could I leave Trevor. Don't people remember their vows...in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad times, until death do us part? Do those words, those VOWS mean nothing?

One day I came across a post...Marriage Isn't for you.....it says everything I have felt about this statement I heard so often.

 http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/

My marriage isn't for me. My marriage is for us. That's why Trevor isn't the lucky one, I am. I am lucky to be able to care for him.  I am lucky because I got to see every miracle he achieved. I got to watch him sleeping at night because I still had him. I am the lucky one. 

If you have any questions you'd like answered or would like a little advice please contact me at bubbie.rcns@gmail.com or on my Facebook page.